In a fine dining establishment like the Bistro one must expect a certain amount couples. Whether young or old it is always entertaining to analyze the quality of our patron’s relationship.
When sitting at a table seated for two, which is approximately two feet by two feet, I have had costumers ask if there was somewhere else where they could sit closer. Sit closer?! You want to sit closer?! You can already smell your partner's breath and can play footsies, how much closer do you want to get? I really just don’t understand those couples sitting on the same side of the table. Don’t they get a cramp in their neck trying to talk to each other? However ridiculous as this request seems to me, it is endearing that after so many years of marriage that you still want to be close to each other.
On the other end of the spectrum there are couples that have absolutely nothing left to say to their partner and as a result pester their server into being best friends. Sometimes these people can be amusing but mostly they are troublesome for all your other tables.
At the bar one night, server Michelle and I observed a doomed young relationship. A young man sitting on a bar stool with his girlfriend standing behind him. No eye contact, no conversation just standing there for a good half hour. In Michelle’s words, “get out now!” Turning away from your partner clearly mean’s your not terribly interested.
In this technology age we have seen everything from e-harmony dates and to blind dates, literally! Last year, the most adorable blind couple asked me to read the menu to them; the gentleman even asked me to wispier the total bill into his ear so that his date couldn’t hear. From first dates to younger dates, the bistro has seen it all. All dates at the bistro aren’t always as endearing, sometimes a couple forces me to wonder if that’s her father or not.
One important lesson to learn from all of these amusing dates is that body can often speak louder than your words. It has been said that body language makes up between 50%- 80% of communication. For your future endeavors here are some helpful hints and fun facts:
Warning signs: Closed-in posture, this what happens when you feel uncomfortable, crossing of arms tightly, stiffening of the spine, crossed legs, facing or angling away. It's fairly easy to interpret the closed-in posture. The other person feels uncomfortable. They aren't open to the interaction with you. They would rather not be there. If this is a first date, it will probably be the last.
“Women send approximately five times more body language messages and gestures than men in the same time period.”
“Don't tease him by offering more than you plan to follow through with. This can lead to very ugly circumstances.”
“Chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having eyes only for your plate of food will not put you in the best standing for the body language game.”
Finally if all else fails buy yourself a nice tee shirt that says, “looking for love” or "I'm a catch"
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